Helping kids overcome fears
If we lived in a perfect world, kids would never have a reason to be scared. But we don't. Kids (and adults!) have all kinds of irrational and unpredictable fears. But a little empathy and creativity can go a long way in easing them.
Super mom Lisa Baker outlines a few powerful strategies for helping kids overcome fears. Number one is to empathize with kids' fears—yes, there are shadows and lots of other things in this world that do look scary. No matter how silly the source of the fear may seem (a branch or a puddle) the emotion behind the fear is real. Baker also recommends sparking kids’ creativity and imaginations. She relays a story about helping her daughter overcome her fear of water and swimming with a book about a girl who discovers she’s half mermaid.
Raul, Tinybop’s founder and CEO, used shadow puppets to show his kids that they could create monsters in the dark, and they could also make them go away. We wanted The Monsters app to work for kids in much the same way. We wanted kids to be able to bring the monsters that haunt their imaginations to life—whether they're frightening or funny—and to confront their fears in a context they can control, in a world that is their own.
To do that, we took cues from some of our heroes —Tim Burton, Maurice Sendak, William Steig, and more—writers, illustrators, and filmmakers who understand kids and bring our terribly imperfect world up to their level, who strike the right balance between scary, weird, and fun, and who keep kids and their imaginations at the center of their stories.
Rotten Island by William Steig
One day, Loves (our site for kids’ media we love) will contain the entire William Steig library (here are our favorites so far). His books challenge and engage kids with wild imagery and vocabulary. Rotten Island is no exception. It’s a story of a terrible, terrible island full of terrible terrible beasts. It’s an entirely delightful read about the power one person or thing has to create change, how good can come out of very bad situations, and so much more.
Where the Wild Things Are by Maurice Sendak
Most are familiar with Where the Wild Things Are. The story of the boy, Max—who becomes king of an island full of beasts, only to return home for dinner—is a literary classic, revered by educators, librarians, and Obama. But we love Sendak because of how much kids love him and his books—and how much Sendak understood them. An example, Sendak's highest compliment from a child: “Jim loved your card so much he ate it.”
Vincent by Tim Burton and Disney
Tim Burton made the charming, animated short Vincent, in 1982 (three years before his feature directorial debut with Pee-Wee’s Big Adventure). In tribute to the horror film star Vincent Price, one of Burton’s heroes and later collaborator, the film tells the story of an unusual young boy who wants to be Price. The boy’s story unfolds in alternating shadow and light, between his dark imagination and the brightness of everyday childhood.
Monsters, Inc. by Pixar
In the sweet and funny movie Monsters, Inc., an entire monster world runs on the screams of children. And so, monsters must hide in closets and under beds to scare children at night. But the tables are turned when a little girl makes her way into the monsters’ world. As it turns out, monsters think children are toxic.
Go Away Big Green Monster by Ed Emberley
Ed Emberley’s minimal, expressive style is an incredible medium for kids’ imaginations. We love his drawing books because they give kids a few easy tools and tricks that let them draw whatever they want. And we love Go Away Big Green Monster because it reveals the magic behind creation and the power it gives kids to make scary things to go away.
For more excellent, endearing monster reads, find copies of The Great Green Turkey Creek Monster and There’s a Nightmare in My Closet. Or dig up Codex Seraphenix, an encyclopedia of an entirely invented world, documented in an invented language written with a coded alphabet alongside surreal and senseless drawings.
For more children’s media we love, visit Loves.